Be Happy and Live Happy

Happiness:- All it takes is just a smile

Dear Readers,

All we need is just a small happy life to live for. Coming from work and taking some rest on couch having tea/coffee while watching our favorite T.V serial with the family. But in reality because of Jealousy, Anger, Hate, Greed & Regrets are the worst things which pulls us from being in a state of Happiness towards being Sad. This being said, it’s fair to say that if anyone is standing in-between you and Happiness is one and only you as the above said thing can only happen to you, if you choose to.

We often tend to misinterpret the terminology of happiness and compare it with wealth ie; more wealth means more happiness, which is so not true. With my personal experience I will say that more wealth brings more despondency, but don’t misinterpret my statement here that having no money means having all happiness.

I will try to bring life to my personal experience towards finding and interpreting happiness which I have acquired facing almost every situation in my life, from spending my night having only a biscuit packet for dinner to a lavishing food buffet from Barbeque Nation.

Before that, I would like to bring something for your consideration: -

     1.      WANT WHAT YOU NEED: -

Ø  As my father says “Want what you need”. Very thoughtful words… and it can only come from anyone so experienced who have seen all kind of ups and downs in life…

We need Roti for surviving

Our need is very simple as in Hindi dialougue we say “Roti, Kapda aur Makkan”. Its already described in our past that to live a happy life we need very few things. But now our want is gradually taking over our need and thus filling our lives with unhappiness. A person need is a simple homemade food but we look for having a high priced food with no particular health benefits like pizza, burger, etc. 

We need clothes for safety

A simple cotton dress piece tailored at any tailor shop or a readymade dress from any local shop will suffice our need, but now we want to have dresses from a shopping mall with high price and that to from foreign brand with no bargaining or discounts. A simple 2 BHK house is sufficient for a small family to live in but we want to have a 3 storied building with swimming pool, bath tubs, tiles fitted rooms, highly decorated halls, etc. To fulfill our wants what we do… We trade our happiness for that. You will ask How…???

We need shelter for protection

Lemme explain… Your need is a simple food, dress and a small house for which you will work for a easy to go income with morning 9 to evening 5 timing and give all your time to your family, relatives and friends thus sharing your feelings and happiness. But you want to have a lavishing high priced food, fashioned dress and a high sophisticated house you will work hard to So, when needs meet wants, a person will always be happy.
So basically you are trading your happiness to fulfill your wants....

      2.      EXPECTATION BRINGS MISERY: -

                             

  Ø  Oooo… You must watch it… Never let yourself to expect something from others. Your expectation not fulfilled will make you angry and jealousy, which in turn charge your sadness. If you let go of your expectation then you will see the light of happiness in you. 

     

     As said in Bhagwad Gita “Karmanye Vadhikaraste, Ma phaleshou kada chana” a simple meaning is that never expect fruits for your deed, your job is to do the task and GOD will decide what result is to give.

So folks… From now on just do anything out of your happiness, without expecting any results and I am sure you will definitely feel good about you and others.

      3.      IT’S YOU WHO WANTS TO BE HAPPY OR YOU ARE DOING IT FOR OTHERS?

  Ø  It’s a very tricky question, as an individual we need to be happy for ourselves. But often we try to hide our sadness and be happy so that others will not find our sadness.

We tend to find happiness in others and convince ourselves as, if others are happy then we are happy. Man…. You are so wrong... Believe me if you are not happy then how do you think you will keep peoples around you happy because a unhappy person will always shout at others which in turn will makes others unhappy.

If you give an example, that a mother will find happiness in feeding her children. Then you have again misinterpreted happiness. A mother’s need and want is feeding her children. She knows when her child needs feeding and before the child cries out she tends to provide.

     4.      WHAT IS THAT WHICH BRINGS HAPPINESS TO YOU?

  Ø  It’s very simple, if you do what you don’t like to do then you tend to be calamitous. A work done in disheartened way will never give fruitful results. 

So, look into your day to
day life and check for all those things that makes you happy and try to incorporate those more. And if you ask me for the job you don’t want to do….

Well I have to explain briefly to you later in my another post. But for now I will only say that if that work makes other happy…. Go ahead and do it….

      5.      CAN YOU DO WHATEVER IT TAKES FOR YOU TO BE HAPPY?

  Ø  So, true…. If you want to be happy then mark my words, it’s you and only you who can make that happen. If you are looking that someone else will bring happiness to you, then look above and count the stars, it will happen after you count them all...

SUMMARY

  ü  Never let your greed control you… Just want what you need not what you greed.

  ü  Never expect anything in return from others for your deed and lead a Happy life.

  ü  Be happy for you not to show others that you are happy.

  ü  Check your daily lifestyle and do the things you love to do.

  ü  Only you are responsible for the happiness or sadness in your life.

Thank you dear readers for giving your time. Please do let me know your thoughts on the same and have a happy and enjoyable life. GOD bless.